Most people feel overwhelmed when they are told they have cancer even if the chance of cure is very high. Many different emotions can arise which can cause confusion and frequent changes of mood. Men may experience feelings such as fear, resentment and anger. This does not mean, however, that they are not coping with the illness. Treatment for testicular cancer happens very quickly and any men may be just finishing college or university, starting out in life with a new job or may have a partner or young family. During treatment their everyday life will be put on hold and it is not until this treatment has finished and they are not attending a hospital daily that the full realisation of what they have been through may hit them.


Some men will find that having family and friends who understand what they have been through will be enough to help them adjust. Others may find that they may benefit from talking to someone through counselling. There is nothing to be ashamed of in seeking counselling and often men will find that they can talk to a stranger more easily about aspects of their life, fears and anxieties more easily than a family member or friend.

The Orchid Testicular Cancer Telephone Counselling Service

Discovering that you have testicular cancer often comes out of the blue and your initial reaction to the diagnosis may well be one of shock and then apprehension about the consequences of having cancer.It isn’t always easy to confide in family and friends about how you feel and this is where it can be really helpful to be able to talk freely and in confidence to one of our Counsellors about what has happened and how it has affected you.As well as having to deal with your own feelings and fears, you may also find that having had a cancer diagnosis and treatment impacts on your relationships in unexpected ways, adding stress when you feel least able to cope with it. Whether at the point of diagnosis, after treatment or because of recurring disease, being able to explore your concerns with someone who understands how challenging a cancer diagnosis can be will allow you to discover your best way to confront what has happened to you.

Orchid currently offers a testicular cancer counselling telephone service. To find out more about this service please click here.

Talking to children

Deciding what and how much to tell children about your cancer is a very personal choice. No parent wants to tell their children they have cancer. Instead every parent wants to protect their children from life’s uncertainties. However, a diagnosis of cancer affects the whole family. Children may notice a change in routine or pick up on your tension or anxiety, even if you think you are hiding it. Therefore, it is important to consider your children’s age and maturity level. By age-appropriately talking to your children, the entire family will be better placed to cope together. Providing accurate information can be a powerful way of helping children to feel more in control of the situation. Knowing more about cancer and its treatments can take some of the fear away. Most people feel better when they know what to expect and children are no exception. Honest communication during childhood establishes a pattern for life. Being open with your children sets an example that you are willing to discuss difficult challenges and situations which can be particularly helpful during teenage years.

This section contains a video called “Fathers and Sons” introduced by Alexander Ludwig, star of the Hunger Games and Vikings, the video is a humorous take on a serious message: showing a father making numerous attempts to bring up the awkward subject of testicular cancer with his sons. The video cleverly demonstrates there should not be any awkwardness because the sons are more than willing to “talk balls” with their father! 

To accompany the video we have a new booklet “Talking to your children about cancer” for families affected by male cancers. Topics include why communication is important, what kind of information should be communicated to children, when and how should children be told and making sure children have the right facts. Download the booklet here. Talking to your children about cancer – for families affected by male cancers

A Holistic Approach 

Often following treatment a holistic approach is needed. This means optimising health and well-being, staying healthy through exercise, diet and a positive mental outlook.There are organisations that can help you access holistic treatments such as Maggie’s Centres

Talking to other men who have been through similar treatment is also extremely beneficial either face to face or via on-line forums. For more details of such groups please see below.


Low Testosterone 

In some men especially those who have had chemotherapy treatment, the chemotherapy may reduce their testosterone levels. Testosterone is essential for maintaining a number of aspects of a man’s health and low levels can make men feel low in mood as well as affect them physically. For more information on testosterone levels and replacement therapy please click here.


The surgery was on the 19th of August and it’s now the 21st. The first night was bad but I think that was probably the anaesthetics. My groin is very tight in my bikini line and the cut is just below my belt line on the fat pad above the penis. My girlfriend being a nurse changed the dressing and was very pleased with the cut as it was very neat and clean. When she removed the dressing a lot of belly hairs were coming off but I could not feel a thing as the wound area was still numb. I can walk around today but cannot fully extend yet as my groin is very tight and painful. The numbness is starting to wear off and the wound is starting to itch a bit. I am sleeping on the sofa at the moment to make it easier to go to the toilet and just in case I get knocked in my wound or groin while we are asleep. Still not tried stairs yet or showered. Going to try stairs later today and shower tomorrow morning. I had to explain to my 2 year old daughter to be careful as she does like to use me as a human bouncy castle!

One thing I think men would worry about is feeling like less of a man. I would tell them that I feel no different in any way, except for the fact that I have a nice scar.

Message to partners. I think you have the hardest job of all. Men are strange to get your head around! You’ll help us most by listening and being around during the major treatment stages.

I was scared to death. I thought I was going to be a freak and never get a girlfriend. I decided to take one step at a time and not look too far ahead. This helped me to not worry about future events that were not within my control. Plan on what you are going to do after finishing treatment, treatment is hard but it can be made all the easier if you feel you have something to look forward to after treatment.

Do it together – or, at least, do it the way that will work for you. Every cancer is different so don’t go looking on the internet too much and only speak with fellow sufferers if you think it will be a good thing for you. Stay strong, be positive and be true to yourself. Don’t worry about the days when you are low and be honest about how you feel

I’d like to say that I’m now travelling the world in sandals preaching to everyone how my life has changed after Cancer, but in reality, it only changed it for a couple of months and then you always seem to get back in the same routine you had previously. Now over 7 months later, it’s beginning to take a more prominent role in my life as I am now realizing how lucky I am to be a survivor when so many don’t manage that. I only wish that I was a radically different person now, to who I was before my diagnosis, and I do feel guilty that I don’t feel that it happened that way for me like it does for so many others affected. Maybe I just haven’t really come to terms with it yet and just need to talk to someone professional about why I feel like that, because I’ve never really had the opportunity to delve into it with someone that way. Or maybe it’s just my way of coping with it. 

I got through my experience by talking to my family and friends about what I was going though. The worst thing you can do is bottle things up and not talk. To lose a big part of your masculinity is a major shock, however by being honest and talking openly about my feelings not only helped me get through it, but it also helped my family and friends come to terms with my illness. Throw in a little bit of humour as well with your mates and believe me, this is a perfect way to deal with the emotions that are associated with having cancer. I know it’s an old cliché, but laughter really is the best form of medicine. 

It’s a long, bumpy journey but one in which you will get through and one which there will be a light at the end. There are no words that can take the pain and anguish away but hopefully the thought of family and loved ones can be the support to help pull you through

For video clips of men discussing coping with testicular cancer please click the images below.

To read personal stories of men who have been affected and treated for testicular cancer please click here

To download a copy of our Testicular Cancer Booklet please click here



Useful Contacts 

The Testicular Cancer Network

The Testicular Cancer Network is a consortium of testicular cancer awareness, support & research charities working together to save the lives of men across the UK. To learn more please click the picture below.


Check em Lads


An excellent website with a large Facebook forum with many men sharing their experience and providing helpful tips on how to cope with treatment.



Telephone: 020 7840 7840 Fax: 020 7840 7841 Questions/helpline: 0808 808 00 00

A huge source of information for anyone who has been affected by cancer including support services.


Maggie’s Cancer Caring Centres

Telephone: 0141 341 5675 Email:

Help centres, run by professionals, who can discuss any aspect of cancer. Also run support groups and weekly sessions in relaxation, stress management, nutrition and health.


Northern Ireland Action Cancer

Telephone: 028 9080 3344 Fax: 028 9080 3356 Email:

A charity which offers one to one counselling. 


Irish Cancer Support

Irish cancer website, with numerous links to support and information.


Support Groups


St Bartholomews Hospital Testicular Cancer Support Group (Meets last Monday of every month).

Please email for further information.


For further information about local and regional support please see The Testicular Cancer Network link above.


Last reviewed March 2021.




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